“Unless one says goodbye to
what one loves, and unless one travels to completely new territories, one can
expect merely a long wearing away of oneself and an eventual extinction.”- Jean Dubuffet
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We all might have faced situations, where we
have to say goodbye to people, temporarily or permanently. The moment is not
easy and many a times not acceptable as we don’t want to let people go and may
be goodbye is the last thing we could ever have thought to say to them. But the
truth is, we have to face it, willingly or unwillingly.
But isn't this thing a part of our daily
lives? We, at some or the other point, have to bid our final adieu to people.
We can’t hold a person forever, against his will, or rather, going against the circumstances.
Even if we succeed to make them stay by some way or the other, it again won’t last
for long, and if it will, then it will be half–heartedly.
Don’t we make promises to people to stay together forever, no matter what ? But do these promises last forever,
every time? I guess no. As they say
promises are meant to be broken. All the people we meet in our lives is for a
purpose. Some helps us through our life's journey and some withdraws it halfway.
The biggest barrier we face in the path of
saying goodbye is our emotions. The truth is people come and people go, and we,
should learn to accept this thing that we can’t hold on to someone forever.
There can be inevitable circumstances, when we take a decision to let someone
go or vice versa .
Learning to say goodbye will bring a change to your
life, and that change at some point will make you realise that every good bye
you said, lead to the beginning of new greetings. We have to release something
to feel some newness. To start a new chapter, it is important to end the old
one.
“For every
goodbye, God also provides a hello” – Donna
Gable Hatch
It is never easy as memories do keep haunting.
But the truth is the more you keep yourself stuck to people who are no more
with you, the more difficult will life be. We need to learn that what’s gone is
gone and we need to make ourselves ready to welcome new people with new thoughts
and new energy into our lives. There surely will be someone to fill in the void
that was created by someone’s exit.
As we move along with our lives, we get
accustomed to this fact that goodbyes are an integral part of our lives. If you
learn to take it easy, it will only make you stronger.
But I would like to add in the end that to say
goodbye is better than never getting an opportunity to say it altogether. The latter
hurts more.
“People
come, people go – they’ll drift in and out of your life, almost like characters
in a favourite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told
their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new
characters and adventures. Then you find yourself focusing on the new ones, not
the ones from the past.”- Nicholas
Sparks
7 comments:
Hiren Chauhan said...
One of the best articles I've ever read on emotions. It's bitter but truth. I wish we all could take goodbyes in such a positive way then there'll be only happy endings.. Keep Writing your heart._.
Unknown said...
This is a very absolute truth. I am sharing this to my friends.. Hope you don't mind.
Cheers and Bravo!!
Nice Writing and Keep Writing.
Anonymous said...
i luved ur ideas, but can i ask u something, dont u think saying goodbye so easily makes life purposeless,
Rebellious Submission said...
Nopes, not at all...The purpose of life isn't to cling on to a particular person or thing forever..You should keep memories alive in a happy manner... Life is to move ahead, to explore new things,learn from your past experiences to make your present better..The reason for half of our miseries is that we don't know how to move on..Robert Frost said "I can sum up what I have learnt about life in 3 words- it goes on"..So when life has to move ahead, no matter what, why can't we leave old things...
Anonymous said...
anonymous says.... how true.. :) my mind always hopes that i can get over but the heart inside says "hope i never have to get over" ... unfortunately "hearts are mindless & minds are heartless" we draw contradictions, conclusions, commitments, comments.., life stands beyond them with its ironical twist, wait for it...,
thank u soo much pal, :) take care bye,
Tattooed Mind said...
Very well written Rebel... I'm a staunch believer in 'When something goes away, it's because something better is going to replace it'.. Makes it easier to move on. Keep writing
Unknown said...
truth hurts lie heals..... i hate goodbyes, i walk away, but then i run back and make it a memorable "goodbye".... oh, rebel....